Thursday, November 17, 2005

So Far

You’re all so good to come back and check up on me even though I don’t deserve your attention. It still amazes me how much a sense of community and friendship exists in the blogosphere amongst the infertiles of the world. I’m honored to be a small part.

So, here’s my latest:

On 11/4 D and I sat down with my RE and confirmed that we do indeed want to proceed to the next step, IVF. I don’t want to begin, however, until January 1 since that is when I will be covered under D’s insurance, which covers 80% of IVF costs. (I went with D to his company’s “health insurance fair” where we visited each of the tables representing the various plans available. I’d saunter up to each representative and ask “what coverage do you have for IVF?” Interestingly, it was the male rep at BCBS who knew immediately what I was talking about – not the women at Aetna. The male rep explained how he and his wife went through it themselves, but ended up adopting – and he proceeded to show us a picture of his young daughter. Clearly another instance of infertility being everywhere if you’re looking for it.) We briefly talked about protocol – probably a combo of bravelle and repronex and he mentioned that I would go on lupron. I asked him what he’d say my chances of success were (expecting a 48 – 50% number) and he answered 60%. Sixty percent!!! I was shocked, but didn’t ask why he gave such a high number because, really, I want to believe in the 60% chance. I don’t want to think about why it won’t work.

I’m signed up to take the info class on Dec. 20th and I went in last Friday for the mock transfer and sounding. Of course, everything was normal so it’s all systems go for IVF in the new year. I’m excited and anxious and hopeful and scared. Not scared of the actual procedures or the drugs or the doing of it. I’m just scared of failure.

The exterminator came to our apartment this morning to do his spraying thing (I swear, we don’t keep a dirty apartment – it’s de rigueur for city living!) and as he was leaving he said “Nice place. Just you and your husband?” And I replied “So far.” For some reason, I can’t bring myself to answer such questions with just a “Yes.”

22 Comments:

Anonymous Amanda said...

Welcome back. You have been missed.

November 17, 2005 5:10 PM  
Blogger Susie said...

Mellie, I'm so glad to see an update from you. Congratulations on your new plan for the new year! I'll be following along and hoping for the very best for you.

November 17, 2005 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Jenn said...

Glad to see an update too. Good luck with the IVF.

November 17, 2005 7:56 PM  
Blogger Mony said...

Progress! News! Thank you for letting us know what was going on.....a silent blog does worry thee! Welcome Back Sista!

November 18, 2005 4:20 AM  
Anonymous anne said...

Good luck as you move forward. I hope the new year brings many happy things for you!

November 18, 2005 8:04 AM  
Blogger Suz said...

Great news on the progress! Welcome back!!!

November 18, 2005 9:19 AM  
Blogger Sheryl said...

Welcome back Mellie! We've missed you!!!

November 18, 2005 10:10 AM  
Anonymous thalia said...

So pleased to hear your news (and thanks for checking in on me in the meantime). Sounds like a plan, and it's fantastic that you have coverage.

November 18, 2005 1:05 PM  
Blogger Donna said...

Yes, you've been missed. Glad to hear you are OK and moving forward.

November 18, 2005 4:23 PM  
Blogger Dramalish said...

You are SO deserving of attention, dearest Mellie.

Incredibly glad to see you posting again, and so excited for Jan. It's a good month, you know. :)

-D.

November 18, 2005 4:28 PM  
Anonymous Z said...

i've missed you! you're in my thoughts and prayers that all turns out great with the IVF!

November 18, 2005 7:28 PM  
Blogger P. said...

So glad to hear for you! Yeah for IVF in the new year!

November 18, 2005 9:28 PM  
Anonymous mama-beans said...

Just out of curiosity, did Aetna cover anything?

November 20, 2005 5:27 PM  
Blogger Jamila said...

sounds like progress! good to hear from you again.

November 21, 2005 9:52 AM  
Blogger Lut C. said...

I had just managed to read your archives before your blog break. So I'm new here and glad to see you're back.

November 21, 2005 2:21 PM  
Blogger Pamplemousse said...

My dear Mellie, good news on the insurance and a plan for January. I was getting worried!! Take care, sweetie.

November 21, 2005 4:16 PM  
Blogger Spanglish said...

Hey Mellie, it's so nice to see you back again! That 60% is a nice number isn't it? It's a good gambling number.

November 21, 2005 9:44 PM  
Blogger Larisa said...

Oh so glad to see you back! I'm excited that you are on your way and making progress towards your IVF cycle. I will be watching, waiting, and most of all, hoping.

November 22, 2005 10:04 AM  
Blogger April said...

You've been missed indeed. Glad to hear the update, and congratulations on having a new plan.

January 1st will be here before you know it.

November 22, 2005 7:43 PM  
Blogger k #2 said...

Mellie, glad to hear such a great update! I love that it was the male that knew so much about IF treatments. IVF here you come! What a nice thing to look forward to during the holidays!

November 22, 2005 8:26 PM  
Blogger Liz said...

I found you through Thalia's blog. I will also be doing IVF in Jan. Wish you lots of luck in your cycle and I'll check in to see how you're doing.

November 26, 2005 1:24 PM  
Anonymous avonlea f/k/a InSpring said...

I hope you are doing well and with the classes starting soon ready for the next inning.

December 04, 2005 8:50 PM  

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